For Joyful Life 

Identify and be free from the infection of comparison

Are you living for you or for others?

If you always aim to improve your ‘image’ in the view of your family, friends, etc,

You are not living your life. In fact you live for others’ views about you.

In that case, all your thoughts and communication with others will mainly center on comparing you, your family, your residence, your car, your wealth, etc with others, especially those with whom you want to compete.

Obviously you may not have time to think of your passions, your natural needs and interests. The basic needs of your joyful living will remain unattended as the price for the disease of the infection of comparison you were trapped.

Consciously or unconsciously most of us are trapped and most of the marketing techniques thrive on perpetuating the infection of comparison.

Instead of acquiring the modern gadgets to serve our joyful living, we become slaves to acquire them to elevate us in others’ views.

The wonderful music and dances in nature (from the birds, trees, etc explained in a post below) are denied till we get rid of the infection.

Also we may not be blessed to move with the unbelievably wonderful human beings among the ordinary people. Instead we will be happy (?) to gain access to the ‘celebrity’, who themselves were trapped (& suffering) in the artificial image built around them to serve some ‘marketing’ interests.

How to get rid of the infection?

Go to a lonely place near trees. hills, river, etc.

Just sit, relax and gradually reflect over your activities, conversations till you suspected of the infection.

Inspect if you had experienced any joy that had nothing to do with the comparison infection.

If most of the happiness you had experienced were directly or indirectly related to that infection , probably your are not living for you and may be missing many really joyful experiences in life.

Once you retune yourself to live for you and never for elevating you in others’ views, you will be free to enjoy a joyful life.

If you do not suffer from that infection, you are already leading a blessed joyful life. Congratulations.

Key to a joyful adventurous life: 

The dynamic practice of attachments  to growth 

and detachments to decay

In nature, almost all things (animate & non-animate) undergo growth and decay.

Most of the living things avoid decayed food while the same decayed food will become a fresh food to some of the insects - thereby revealing the relative dimension of growth and decay.

A human being from his/her birth to death experiences so many growths and decays in their social relations and the natural environment.

Also in nature anyone attached to a thing going down will also go down, and go up when attached to a thing going up.

Freeing ourselves, for the time being, from all of our mental conditioning, we will observe that all the ups and downs in our life were related to our attachments to the ups and downs (in the case of our family, friends, ideology, party, other kinds of social relations, social trends, etc).

Those moving up in any one of the domains like family, job, etc were enjoying the results of their intelligent detachment from the related decaying things and simultaneous attachment to the growing things WITHOUT HESITATION.

Also ups and downs are relative and have their own price tags.

Sacrificing human values to go up in wealth may have a price tag of going down in other domains like family, etc in terms of peace and happiness.

In fact above a threshold level in wealth, people have to be unusually alert and vigilant to move with other wealthy ‘sharks’ to avoid going down in wealth and hence are cursed.

But to those focusing on ups in terms of peace and joy, the dynamic practice of attachments to the growth and detachments to the decay, not minding other bearable downs (in wealth, etc) will itself become a joyful adventurous life.

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Are you living with the 'dead bodies'?

Few decades before, a Muslim born Hindu like monk lived with his disciples’ families in a group of newly built huts in barren lands away from the nearby villages.The place was called ‘mei vazi sAlai’ (true path) in Pudukkottai district, South India and he was worshiped as ‘‘mei vazi’ chAmiyAr’ (‘mei vazi’ monk). 

When he died, his disciples refused to accept his death, claiming that he was only sleeping. Unable to bear the foul smell from the dead body, after some days, they buried him. That sect stopped growing as well as when he was alive, though the disciples continue to live there believing him as the true God.

Those disciples were intelligent to accept the death of the body of the ‘‘mei vazi’ chAmiyAr’ because of the foul smell from the body which they could not tolerate.

Had they consumed some intoxicating drinks, they might have tolerated the foul smell for some more days.

Like that, many of us are intoxicated with some ideology, dead customs (like the distorted -from the hygiene based- now caste based ‘untouchability’), dead human bonds, etc and continue to live with ‘those dead bodies’, getting infected in the course of time.

How are we to identify that we are living with ‘dead bodies’?

Like the ‘foul smell’, if the persons of the  party upholding the ‘dead ideology’, of the dead customs and dead human bonds, exhibit increasing negative values and decreasing positive values in their personal lives , and becoming the growing sources for your negative feelings and negative experiences, it means you are living with the 'dead bodies'. Your affection towards the ideology, custom and the human bonds (lover, husband/wife, children, friends, etc) is the intoxication which prevents you to sensitize the ‘foul smell’ till you start  living like a ‘dead’ person – a human robot not programmed to sensitize the foul smell, human sufferings, & ‘nature’ sufferings.

Once you sensitize the ‘foul smell’, you can get rid of the party and even the dead custom.

How can we get freedom from the dead human bonds?

To do that you must acquire ‘the skill of the secret of dying for joyful living’ ; 
http://veepandi.blogspot.com/2012/12/normal-0-false-false-false_5.html

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‘Smiling’ dancing branches with leaves in trees

When you are extremely happy due to unforeseen positive development like winning a gold medal or birth of a child in normal delivery, etc, your face and body language will radiate so much happiness that even strangers (even if they were in dull mood) around you (who may not know you or the reason) can sensitize your happiness and feels energized partly reflecting in their face and body language.

During my walk both in the morning and evening, some times during winds, I used to witness the up and down rhythmic moving branches with leaves in matching rhythmic movements in the trees. It just reminded me the radiating happiness mentioned above.

We may not know the ‘emotion’ (which science had begun to unravel) of the trees. Still we can sensitize the happiness like the strangers mentioned above,

With declining culture among human beings to spare time to sense the sufferings of even friends to console them, the nature is proving with unlimited ‘ music and dances’ to radiate happiness to console us.

In fact a creative dancer can decipher interesting choreographic movements in the above ‘dancing’ branches and leaves for using in his/her dance composing.

When we start enjoying the above benefits, we will be naturally tempted to preserve nature to the extent possible within our means.

The ‘perfect happiness’ blessed by nature

 “a sufficient, complete and perfect happiness which leaves no emptiness to be filled in the soul. Such is the state which I often experienced on the Island Of Saint-Pierre in my solitary reveries, whether I lay in a boat and drifted where the water carried me, or sat by the shores of the stormy lake, or elsewhere, on the banks of a lovely river or a stream murmuring over the stones.” (Rousseau 1979: 88 - 89)

Valuable Lessons from Dengue Fever

Some weeks before veteran 80-year-old filmmaker Yash Chopra died in Mumbai after contracting dengue, in spite of availing treatment from costly private hospital.

Few weeks before, in a private hospital at Trichy, a middle class young patient with dengue tested around 12,000 platelets in blood, facing imminent death. On my suggestion, my friend related to the patient told the parents to try papaya leaf juice as the last attempt to save the patient's life. After taking the juice periodically, within 2 days the platelets increased to > 1 lakh and the patient was discharged the next day. 

My illiterate servant told me that all her family members drank papaya leaf juice when one of them had symptoms of fever.

Two relevant Questions

Why the rich people succumb to dengue fever while those in middle class and poor could escape through a simple remedy?

How the illiterates /semi-literates know the remedy while educated high classes are ignorant of it?

Distribution of information among lower middle class and poor people through interpersonal communication are unconstrained , while the upper middle class and the rich live like status caged human animals, insulated to receive ‘papaya leaf juice’ like information to save their lives.

Unless we are aware of the cages around us, we will never know what freedom means - insulated without the freedom even to receive information that could save our lives.

Can you be angry with Mathematics?

Imagine you are emotionally attached a few odd numbers like 3, 9, 13.

Like most of the present day educated, imagine you do not know multiplication and hence depend on calculators.

You multiply 2 by 2 in a calculator and are disappointed that the output on the screen is 4 and not any of your favourite number.

Next you multiply 3 by 3 and are happy with the 9 on the screen.

In the former case, can you be angry with 4 or the calculator or the method of calculating 2 by 2? Instead,  setting aside your anger, if you make sincere effort, you may be able to understand the method of calculating (principle) and even the process of the calculator in calculating (process)

There is no harm if you thank God for the later result.

We, the finite, do not know the mathematics of the life governed by infinite factors.

Depending on our understanding, we know only the partial (finite) of the infinite dimension mathematics of life.

Our disappointments and anger we experience due to the outcomes we face in our life are the valuable signals, cognizing which we must make open minded sincere effort to understand the principle and process of life – the Tao.

Obviously we can not do it if we can not get rid of the negative feelings we experience.

Tail piece:  A Quiz

Which is the most powerful number?

a)     million  b) billion  c) trillion  d) infinite e) zero

The right answer is‘e’. Though infinite may be the biggest number, it has no mathematical power to transform any number into infinite. But any number divided by zero will transform that number into infinite. Also all numbers 1 or million, or trillion are same to zero w.r.t the above transformation.

Hence zero is the most powerful number. We, the finite, CAN subject ourselves to the above transformation, if we can get rid of (the technique revealed in Bhagavat Geetha) anger and disappointments (noises) to experience the transformation (the Signal). 

The same technique is also revealed in the following ancient Tamil text. 

 'தீதும் நன்றும் பிறர்தர வாரா;
( thEthum nhanRum piRar thara vArA;

Translation: Good and bad do not come from others)

 நோதலும் தணிதலும் அவற்றோரன்ன;
( nhOthalum thaNithalum avaRROranna;

T: Sickness and cure are also like that)

 சாதலும் புதுவது அன்றே; வாழ்தல்
 இனிது என்று மகிழ்ந்தன்றும் இலமே;
( cAthalum puthuvathu anRE; vAzthal
 inithu enRu makiznhthnaRum ilamE;

T: Death is not new. No need to be happy for living)

                                                                 முனிவின்,
இன்னாது என்றலும் இலமே;
(munivin innAthu enRalum ilamE;

T: Nothing is worse than anger & hatred)  

                                                             ' மின்னோடு
வானம் தண் துளி தலைஇ, ஆனாது
கல் பொருது இரங்கும் மல்லல் பேர் யாற்று
நீர் வழிப்படூஉம் புணை போல், ஆர் உயிர்
முறை வழிப்படூஉம் ' 
 ('  minnOtu vAnam thaN thuLi thalaii, AnAthu
kal poruthu iranhkum mallal pEr yARRu
nhIr vazip patUum puNai pOl, Ar uyir
muRai vazippatUum'

T: With lightening cooled water drops in the sky join
to pour torrential rain that will clash with rocks to become overflowing river
on which a floating body travels; Valuable life travels like that manner)

என்பது திறவோர்
காட்சியின் தெளிந்தனம் ஆகலின்
( enpathu thiRavOr 
kAtciyin theLinthanam Akalin

T: The above is clear to a person with reason)  

, மாட்சியின்
பெரியோரை வியத்தலும் இலமே;
சிறியோரை இகழ்தல் அதனினும் இலமே.

( mAtciyin 
periyOrai viyaththalum ilamE;
ciRiyOrai ikazthal athaninum ilamE.


T: No need to be surprised and respect the people high in status;
   More than that, no need to disrespect people low in status.)

  புறநானூறு 192 ; 3 -13 ;

puRanhAnURu   192 ; 3 -13 ; ( first few centuries of C.E )

If you can experience the ZERO in you, you can experience the infinite - GOD

That experience can not be revealed in words - the vehicle of finite communication.

The Skill of the Secret of Dying 

for Joyful Living

Those who succeed in ending their life did it for a reason, very valuable to them.

The reason may be the love for the person who betrayed them, or failure in career making their life unworthy of living, or (may be a foolish) attachment to a party for whose progress (?) their dying will bring martyrdom.

Irrespective of our adoring or condemning the reason, no one can disagree that they were not greedy, selfish & cunning bulldozing positive human values for seeking selfish wealth and other material benefits like most of the ‘LIVING’ people.

Remember when a child is born, all social relationships were zero. As the child grows all kinds of family, friends and other social relationships get developed.

The curiosity to understand and learn with open mindedness in a child decrease in magnitude as the child grows into a man or woman, father or mother, etc.

Without resorting to suicide, is it possible to die to all relationships that caused the reason to think of suicide and be born afresh as a child with the curiosity to understand and learn with open mindedness, but at our age?

In that case, how to handle those who caused the reason?

Willingly paying the price to distance yourself from those persons while starting afresh to develop positive relationships of your option, the skill of secret dying for joyful living can be acquired.

Since most of the people are money minded, just give them (lover or/and wife/husband, children, parents, friends, enemy, etc - unavoidable persons related to you before your dying) the money & other material benefits you can afford. You will be surprised how easy it will be to handle them. In fact, after some time, they may think that you live like a fool and may even start sympathizing. They can never understand your joy to develop new positive relationships without their hurdles.

If you start understanding and living for your natural needs and interests and not for elevating you in other’s view (induced needs & interests), you will be surprised how much you can curtail wasteful expenditure and easily fulfill the above condition. 

How can we move with the persons to whom we are dead in mind? Can we forget the past?

No one can forget the past unless something went wrong in the brain.

But one can have the freedom from the known – the past. It means you are not burdened or enslaved by the past. You can live to even positive relationships in the past.

That will be possible if you are your king and not slave to the attachments you developed in the past. To know more on ‘The Freedom from the known’, better read the same title by late J.Krishnamoorthy.

With your will and open minded sincere efforts, you can acquire the Skill of the Secret of Dying for Joyful Living.

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Not only to Birds & Trees

Human defined life segregates atoms and molecules from those in inanimate objects and distinguishes life as unique processing involving the segregated.

The stopping of that processing is identified as death. The processing after death remove the human (or science) defined segregation of atoms and molecules.

Minus the human intervention of the definition, the life in nature’s view has no death but only transformation in the role of atoms and molecules.

Hence say good morning to not only to birds and trees, also to the ‘inanimate’ live objects like rocks, clouds in sky with wonderful designs and colours during sun rise. We, a part of nature, say good morning to the other parts of nature as we say to the other human beings.  

Start the Day with ‘Good Morning’ to Birds & Trees

It is easy to understand why we are not comfortable when asked to treat high-tech robots in human form as human beings. The difference between life and a computer ‘programme’ is obvious. That difference will disappear if human beings are fully conditioned to live, to feel, to cry and to laugh like the high-tech robots.

To say ‘good morning’ to those robots like human beings, I avoid.

Instead in my morning walks I say ‘Good Morning’ to the birds & trees, all living beings I come across. Though they may not understand my verbal communication, they understand my emotion and respond. To those who may doubt me, the following will clarify.

“Indian scientist Sir Jagadish Chandra Bose began to conduct experiments on plants in the year 1900. He found that every plant and every part of a plant appeared to have a sensitive nervous system and responded to shock by a spasm just as an animal muscle does. In addition Bose found that plants grew more quickly amidst pleasant music and more slowly amidst loud noise or harsh sounds. He also claimed that plants can "feel pain, understand affection etc.," from the analysis of the nature of variation of the cell membrane potential of plants under different circumstances. According to him, a plant treated with care and affection gives out a different vibration compared to a plant subjected to torture.” 
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plant_perception_%28paranormal%29)


When plants & trees can respond to my ‘Good Morning’, why not the birds?

No wonder I start the day with full of life steam that will last till I go to bed.

Start the Day with ‘Good Morning’ to Birds & Trees

 

 

Anger- A key to success

Next time you get angry, be happy that you have a wonderful key to success.

Without disconnecting the feelings, just start probing your anger.

Try to clearly identify the target of your anger. It may be a person or group of persons.

If your anger aims at a non human object, your probe will become more interesting.

Remember only sensitive people get angry and your getting angry shows that you have not lost your sensitivity.

The nature of your anger will give an idea of your sensitivity domain.

Once I scolded one of my colleagues in strong terms. To my surprise he didn't get angry with me. When the same person was scolded very mildly by another colleague, he was very angry with him. Reason? He believed that I was his true well-wisher and  would never be his competitor in any of his progress. The other colleague was viewed differently.

Your anger will give an idea of your interests related to your sensitivity domain and its relation with the prospective victims of  your anger.

Non human victims of your anger will give a better idea of your sensitivity domain interests.

Again your probing must find the time value of your anger.

When a person inadvertently dashes against you while walking, you may get angry
for few seconds and forget it even if you do not get an apology.

If you think that it was a wanton act of insult, the time value will increase depending on the perceived magnitude of insult.

Coming back to your sensitivity domain interests [SDI], they have the answers to ever interesting question of what you live for.

If you are not angry, this probe will not yield rich results.

If you analyze your SDI, you will experience an interesting exercise of segregating induced interests from interests arising out of  your natural needs.

Remember you are your king to your natural interests and slave to your induced interests.

Under induced interests you always aim to elevate yourself in the estimation of others.

In other words your probing of your anger will reveal king/slave dimensions in your personality.

If your anger is directly related to the induced interests, you are fighting for other man's [or woman's] views on you .

Once you have the courage to stop it, the energy for your success gets instantaneous increase.You will start living for you and not for others.

Next time you get angry, be happy.
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Navigate life to peace and happiness

To know if our life is moving forward or reverse will be an interesting exercise.  

When our life move towards objects likes peace, happiness, we move forward.

If our life move towards objects likes depression , sadness we move backward.

If we could know well in advance about the direction of our life we have the privilege of taking corrective steps.

By studying if our life is dominated by actions or reactions, we can acquire that privilege.

When you take a lead and act on it, it is action.
When you act as a reaction to a person or event, it is reaction.

Our life consists of both actions and reactions.

Actions and reactions by themselves may be positive [helping forward] or negative [assisting backward].

Also actions and reactions may have seeds of future actions and reactions.

Irrespective of the individual nature of actions and reactions, if one’s life is dominated by actions, that life is moving forward. On the other hand if reactions dominate then it is moving backward.

Actions caused by induced needs and interests may have potential negative seeds forcing us into a life trap of negative reactions perpetuating backward movement.

Actions and reactions motivated by natural needs and interests will contribute to forward movement while those motivated by induced needs and interests will cause backward movement. 

A study of magnitude and direction of all actions in our current life will help to identify the domination aspect in our life. Another study of the motivating factors of our actions and reactions will provide keys to corrective measures.

Let us navigate our life towards peace and happiness.  

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Live your life

You will never succeed if you live to elevate yourself in others' view.. But live your life.

Beware that no two humans are alike in all respects. 

Its like no two electrons are alike in an atom.Hence comparing ourselves with others and trying to elevate ourselves in others' view is foolish in nature.

Respect for individual freedom implies respect for the differences between individuals.

Failure to come to terms with this reality will invite negative components
in the relationship of individuals and groups.

Insecurity feelings will tend to ignore this and will invite negative components.

Possessive feeling in love is one such negative component.

Possessive relationships are time bombs waiting to explode at the opportune moment. 

The social dimension of an individual demands interacting with others.

Any interaction between any two persons may involve exchange of tangible and intangible benefits/losses. Love also follows this rule.

The exchanges of both tangible and intangible benefits/losses intend to fulfill certain needs and interests.

The needs and interests may be natural or induced.

A life dominated by induced interest follow a robot program dictated by external factors. Robots don't live. They just obey a programme.

If one's life is mostly driven by induced interests it will become a robotic life. A robotic life is worse than animal life. In fact there is no life in it.

`I am above [or possess] you' becomes the programme of the robot identity.
This programme will subordinate human components. The impediments to the implementation of this programme are brutally removed.

No human life is either 100% human or 100% robot.
An individual life is the result of both components.

Exchange of tangible and intangible benefits/losses between two persons is a complex phenomenon fulfilling natural or/and induced needs.

A master-slave [or possessive] relationship between two persons implies enslavement of both to a common robot programme. 

Hence awareness demands freedom from robot influences.

Robot influences are the major culprits for most of human/nature tragedies.

Awareness helps to lead a simple creative life minimizing robot influences.

A creative life will help harmony with people and nature.

Any disharmony experienced by an individual with people and nature indicates a need for remedial measures towards harmony. The seed of insecurity feelings lies in such disharmony.

Failure to sense the need well in advance will pave the way for tragedy.

A non-robotic sensitive life is an insurance against such tragedies.

Love becomes a cherishing experience however long or short it may be without a need for accounting the loss and gain.

Enjoy love. Live your life.